Education First - BDSM Later

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I'm so sick and tired of seeing the types of Dom/mes that think they already know everything and are unwilling to learn. But what irritates me the most is the subs that belong to those type of Dom/mes. These subs are just promoting a very dangerous environment for themselves and possible future subs.

I see D/s as similar to driving a car. Where the Dom/me is the driver and the sub is the car. A person cant just say I want to drive that car right there. If this happens there is an extremely high chance of causing major damage to the car; even to the point that the car can no longer be used anymore. They may even cause major injures to themselves because they didn't know how to drive the car. Other people first teach the person how to drive, care, and operate the car. Different cars require different care and are driven differently.

I don't see how Dom/mes can get away without learning about how to be a good Dom/me first...

There are tons of places to learn about BDSM from. The internet, books, local events, and other people. People that only state that they learned at BDSM from porn is a huge no no and a major get the fuck away from the person flag. BDSM in porn is an extremely inaccurate representation of what BDSM is about and how to conduct it.

For convenience; books are the best way to start out learning about BDSM. Not everybody knows of any local groups, or munches; as a way to learn about BDSM.  For those that are reasonable and responsible; here is a short list of a few educational BDSM books to get you started off:

* The Control Book
* SM 101: A Realistic Introduction
* The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge
* The Loving Dominant
* The New Bottoming Book
* The New Topping Book