Being in a BDSM Relationship Doesn't Automatically Mean You Have to Be Poly

Advice to live by.

I hate seeing a Dom that wants to be poly but the sub doesn't want it. The sub tries talking to their Dom about it but their Dom doesn't listen. Fuck that shit if my Dom doesn't listen me I tell them bye bye, fuck you I can find somebody that will listen to me. I'm way too jealous to be poly. I would probably end up hurting the other person. I had one Dom try to force me into a poly relationship. I kept telling him no, unless he wanted me to leave because I see it as not needing me. It makes me feel useless and unwanted. What is mine is mine and if anybody touches him I will fuck them up. Some people can do poly and that's fine, but it's not for me.

Being in a poly relationship is one of the things that should be talked about before entering into a BDSM relationship. Many people that are part of the lifestyle are in a poly relationship but not everybody is. For every poly relationship I know of, I can think of two monogamous relationships. This might vary because I don't hang around that many poly people. Seeing how it works fantasizes me though. It's super complex and isn't for everybody. A lot of the times, turning a monogamous relationship into poly can break the relationship. It takes a lot of work. Also it seems in order to have a good poly relationship everybody has to have very open communication and nobody must be loved more than others or else it creates friction.

Its true that poly is part of BDSM. However; its not right to think that every BDSM relationship is poly and that everybody in BDSM wants a poly relationship. If your partner doesn't respect your thoughts and stance on having a poly relationship then its a sign that you need to rethink about being with your partner.