Asperger's Syndrome and BDSM

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(This writing is a work in progress and is my thoughts and experiences with being a submissive with high functioning autism aka Asperger's syndrome. I just kind of felt like writing this right now so its not very organized. I drank a whole pot of coffee by myself so my brain is like wheee lets do philosophical stuffs.)


Asperger's Syndrome and BDSM: Why Being a Submissive Will Help Those With Asperger's Syndrome/ Why Doms Should Find a Submissive With Asperger's Syndrome

Part 1 - Why Being a Submissive Will Help Those With Asperger's Syndrome

Everyone that considers themselves an aspie has different quirks; mine are about average (being aloof, internalizing everything, socially awkward, can't pick up on social queues, and very specific and limited interests/obsessions). We need somebody to pull us out of our little shell, all while making us feel safe. For example; my boyfriend/Dom knows I hate having to go outside so he takes me anyplace I need to go. He knows I hardly ever talk when out in public and I just wish I was invisible; so he stays by my side and makes sure I feel safe. He also understands that I sometimes panic when I have to talk so he usually does most of the talking to other people for me. That and the fact that I tend to mumble a lot (at least that's what everybody says). He speaks for me and understands that I just have an easier time texting him than speaking face to face. Its a Dom's job to protect and guide their sub. The Dom will make sure that we feel safe all of the time. If we don't then they will do their best to make sure that we are.

Part 2 - Why Doms Should Find a Submissive With Asperger's Syndrome

To put this in the most simple terms one of the major traits of people with Asperger's syndrome (aka aspies) is their extremely limited interests. By limited I mean by usually only liking one thing to the point of being extremely obsessed. They don't like anything else. The good thing about this is that if the aspie happens to get out of their shell and take an interest in you; then you will be their obsession. They wont need anybody else but you. However; this can be a double edged sword. They will have another obsession and if you don't approve of that obsession then you are no longer of an interest to them anymore. For me; I told my Dom that if it was ok that I'm obsessed with kpop. He said it was fine but if he wasn't ok with it then it would cause a major issue. I do love and worship my Dom but my kpop obsession was first and I will never let it go.

Aspies love routines. We normally do the same thing, the same way everyday. Give us something to and we will gladly add it to our daily routine. Hell if I don't have a set routine, I will end up watching the same kpop video over and over and over again.

Another thing; (which I have yet to determine if this a negative or positive for D/s relationships) is that aspies are extremely creative. I had a previous Dom that would tell me an idea he had for a scene and I could think of a whole complex scenario from only a few words. The reason that this can be positive or negative is that aspie hate to have their ideas ignored or laughed at. Its only positive if the Dom understand that the sub isn't trying to top from the bottom or being a brat; we are just super creative. We cant help it; its just how our brain works and we just want to share our wonderful idea with you. If you do happen to do it then great; if not no then hard feelings. We are just grateful that you listened to our idea.

All in all; just because a sub has Asperger's syndrome that doesn't mean they will be a horrible sub, they just need to be treated a little differently because we work a little differently than most people. We just want somebody that will take us out of our little bubble and guide us, all while making us feel as safe and as comfortable as possible. We love being told what to do because for a lot of things we aren't sure what to do (mostly out in public. I call myself a lost puppy).


(Keep in mind this is just my point of view and a work in progress. I'm no professional; just an awkward aspie that like to write)