Why do clothes have to be gendered?

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Why can't clothes be grouped according to body shape instead of gender? 

I usually buy men's clothes because they look and fit better anyway. 

It's crazy that I can wear a men's size large tee shirt; but for women's tees, I need to wear an XL. 

Women's clothing usually doesn't have pockets and costs more than men's clothing. 

Some women are more masculine looking and some men are more feminine looking; body shape wise. 

Buying clothes according to your body shape just makes more sense.

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Thank you - Plus updates

 

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Thank you everybody that reads my blog. I had no idea that people liked what I wrote. I never received any notifications of the comments that were made.

I know it has been years since I have written anything. But random chronic illnesses suck. I have Grave's Disease; aka hyperthyroidism. My anxiety shot through the roof thanks to that. Somedays even leaving my bed is hard. My medications do help; but the anxiety has stayed.

I have also learned that the reason for me being unhappy in D/s relationships; is that I'm not completely submissive. I recently learned about primal and it fits me much more than submissive ever did. It's nice learning about who you really are. I no longer have to try to fit inside boxes that weren't made for me.

I will try to write more but my brain is just to aaaaaaa most of the time.

Frustration

It has been over 4 days and I have not heard shit from my Master. This is not the first time this has happened either.

I left him 5 years ago because he constantly ignored me. Good BDSM only works with good communication and so far he is extremely lacking in that field.

What makes it even worse now is he has cancer and will not tell me anything about it unless I ask. Even if I ask,I'm lucky if he responds to 1% of the things I ask for me.

Why am I so nice and forgiving?

The only reason I'm unhappy is because I let people treat me like I'm shit. Reaching the point where I don't even care anymore isn't helping at all.

BDSM 101: What is BDSM?

BDSM is different for everybody. But its commonly known as B/D (Bondage and Discipline), D/s (Dominance and submission), and S/M (Sadism and Masochism).  BDSM is an umbrella term used for anything that may not be considered normal sexual activity (or vanilla) according to society standards.

You do not have to participate in any part of BDSM that you don't want to to be considered part of the BDSM community. Anybody that tells you otherwise is wrong and you need to stay away from that person (this is known as a red flag).

There are no set rules or definitions within the BDSM community but they are generalities that most agree upon.

One major thing that everybody agrees upon is consent. Consent is the major factor in distinguishing abuse and BDSM. There is consent within BDSM; while there is no consent when it comes to abuse.

Another thing everybody in the BDSM community agrees with is the need to have open and honest communication. Without this; then there is no way to actually give your consent if you have no idea what is going to happen. Plus practicing BDSM usually involves extreme acts that will create extreme emotions. If one person is unable to communicate with their partner then the relationship will be strained and very likely fail.

This is just a very basic and overall explanation of BDSM.

I will go more in-depth into the different roles and activities that are part of the umbrella of BDSM in the future.

My thoughts on brats and brat tramers

I have seen a few people that practice BDSM say that brats are bad and aren't a type of a submissive because they don't want to follow orders. Some people even say that brats need to be tamed.

My thoughts about those ideas are phhhhhbbbbb.

Brats are just playful submissives that like to make BDSM more fun because they like to find loop holes and push back. I personally find just saying yes to everything right away, without joking about it, to be very boring. I like to play around and make jokes with my Master. Keep in mind I am not acting like a brat to take control. I just like to make jokes and play around. I'm being 100% playful; not rude, hurtful, malicious, or manipulative.

If somebody calls themselves a brat but they never listen to any rules or orders, are rude all of the time, lack any type of respect, and manipulate things so they always get their way; are not brats. They are just horrible people.

As for brat tamers; most brats don't want to tamed. Trying to tame a brat is equal to taking their fun away and killing off a part of them. Just ask if a brat wants to be tamed because while some don't, there are some that do.

As with anything in this lifestyle; it all boils down to communication and compatibility. Just because somebody is a playful submissive that doesn't do whatever they are told without question; it does not make them a bad or not a submissive.

Loyalty, laziness, or just contentment?

My Master recently thanked me for being loyal and it just hasn't been sitting right with me.

My Master is currently too busy with getting his degree to pay me any attention and I'm very unhappy. I have expressed this and he just tells me to wait.

I hate waiting though. I'm an impatient little bitch that wants everything now.

I don't know if I'm actually loyal or not because I'm unhappy with him.

I have thought of leaving him but then I was like hell no there are far much worse things out there. Plus I really don't want to have to start over. Also I'm in love with my Master and I don't really want to leave him anyway. Its just a culture thing where Koreans are super obsessed about school.

My main worry is that will my Master pay me any attention when he is finished with his degree?

I fear the unknown. I know I need faith. I do have Faith. 100lbs of Faith.

My dog Faith

So here I am back to the question if I'm actually loyal or not.

BDSM has taught me that that I can say no and that my no matters

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Long story short but my father would beat me anytime I told him no. I was taught that I could not say no to any man. Well after 20 some odd years and more; I went through actual hell because I was scared to death of ever telling a man no.

It wasn't until I learned about BDSM that I can and should say no. That my no matters. That I won't get beaten for saying no.

So if you ever have a question about if you can say no or not; the answer is yes you can and should say no if you want to. Also if you ever have to question yourself about saying no; then you are probably not in a good mental place or a safe relationship.